Sam Ellis
Teacher/father/leftist loonie/raised hare Krishna and have never quite renounced it - "I just have one more thing to say, then I’ll let you speak"
Appears in 43 Episodes
Is Love the Drug?
Romantic Realities: Deconstructing the Romantic Love MythWe dive into the misconceptions of romantic love prevalent in Western culture, drawing on a quote from You Are...
Sam reads your listener notes
Listeners are producers. Thank you for getting the show out.I reflect on my own podcast listening: helpful with insomnia, and a lifeline during tough times. Write me h...
Film
Thinking back on favourite films, it becomes clear what they say about us. Cinema, the Psyche, unveiling Inner HeroesIt's always therapy and psychoanalysis around here...
Bromance
Do most straight men reserve their truest love and romance for other men? Marilyn Frye thinks so, and today we consider a quote from her classic book of feminist essay...
FOMO, JOMO and beyond
Moving from Fear, to Joy of Missing Out and beyond both. FOMO arises from projection and fantasy, as does a lot of the imagined enjoyment of the imagined pleasures.We ...
Attachment
Is Attachment Theory the new Myers-Briggs? NoIs it helping? Yes! Is attachment also about friendship, family and self relationships? Yes!Is it the magic bullet? Kind o...
Envy
Study envy to find messages from our future selvesWe unpack the role of envy, not as a toxic emotion to be avoided or ashamed of, but a normal feeling that gives us cl...
New Year, New You?
Neurodivergence, New Years Resolutions, and Future FocusWe welcome the New Year byevaluating the usefulness of New Years resolutionssharing the honest struggles we’ve ...
Who's your guru?
Who's Your Guru? (and is Slavoj Žižek any good?)Sam, Joe and Ali discuss gurus, including the online type:our times are thick with public intellectuals, influencers, a...
Do we ever fully recover from a breakdown?
Possible triggers. A confronting episode but one we are proud of. Sam, Joe, and Ali explore the impacts, recovery and residues of mental breakdowns.The recent Robbie W...
Being the victim
We explore the experience of identifying as victim, through personal stories and theory, and of course the potential of spirituality and psychotherapy in helping move ...
To Post or Not to Post?
Only posting about shit you have personal experience of? Ali explains why white middle class people should maybe shut up. Team discuss different social media platforms...
Jesus is my homie
The team discuss a quote from Christian mystic Emmett Fox on grievances:“Going over old grievances mentally, thinking how badly someone acted at some time, for instanc...
Having a Menty B
We discuss mental breakdowns: the need we all have occasionally, the experience of it, and the benefits! Joe, Sam and Ali have had at least one menty b each, as many p...
Letting go of friends
The team discuss the art of letting go of friends. Outgrowing friends or just growing in different directions? Joe says if you start judging friends it’s the beginning...
How do we know therapy is working?
Sam, Joe and Ali reflect on our experiences in therapy. Sometimes the results seem clear – other times they’re hard to see. All agree it’s important to compare your pr...
Compromise
We ask if we are willing to compromise to be in a long-term monogamous relationship?Sam discusses how to, whether we need to and to what extent we need to compromise.A...
Are the blokes ok?
This week we listened to a Mamamia podcast where Mia Freedman interviews Caitlin Moran on her latest book "What about men?" and discuss our thoughts.We acknowledge we ...
Feelpinions
What are feelpinions? - Ali shares her definition and how she views it through a Dialectical Behavioural lens of logic and emotion. Sam elaborates why all extremes are...
The Meaning of Life
"The meaning of life" Welcome back Joe and welcome to a new format. Here at the ten thousand things we have decided to tackle the ten thousand things that distr...
Nigella - (no Joe show)
Something a little different from The Ten Thousand Things, Joe is taking a well deserved break in beautiful Vietnam so Sam and Ali take the opportunity to discuss all ...
The Bonobos of Naarm
Self actualisation / non monogamy / Communism 1 - Quotation corner "Ageing is an extraordinary process where you become the person you always thought you should...
"Family values"
Our parent's values / Crying / Jaded dating profiles 1 - How did our parents values shape our own? Ali shares how she's not only grown into her parents' values. Sa...
Everyone's a 10, and We Are All One
Leaning in, to content, confidence and courage. Do we read books anymore? / How do you rate yourself? / Is spirituality just watered down religion? 1 - Are you a b...
Be Here Now
How the language of therapy took over dating / The little things that help / Death 1 - Are we able to diagnose our dates? Should we? Ali discusses if therapists ...
Benefits!
Benefits! The benefits of ChatGP / The benefits of neurodiversity / The benefits of working on yourself 1 - What are the benefits of emerging AI technologies? Wi...
Big Gratitude for Cat Dad Energy
Throwing soup at paintings / Cat dads vs dog dads / Gratitude - yeah or nah? 1 - We delve into the effectiveness of political protests. Is throwing soup at a paint...
The Overwhelm - Prognosis, Pedagogy and Parachutes
We return for Season 2. Life before and after ADHD treatment / Sam on learning / You are falling through the air without a parachute, but don't worry, there is no grou...
A Christmas Special - Xmas vs Joe
Christmas in the bin? What can be redeemed in it? / Note to self: 'let it stream' / That's Facts - A dark brooding romantic fixer upper 1. Christmas - Quite a few peo...
Do not seek the truth - A vague understanding of Sengcan
Revolution? / Do not seek the truth, only cease to cherish opinions / Paparazzi We mention Sengcan a lot: sage, poet and 3rd Patriarch of Chan Buddhism. Famous for (m...
